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Larry Garde uploaded photo(s)
Friday, October 7, 2022
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Just to give those of you who may never have seen it, an idea of the extent of Dan's music library, here are pictures representing part of it.
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Jaqueline uploaded photo(s)
Friday, September 30, 2022
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It is little space here to be able to describe who was given in our lives! But I'll try to write some details ... Mainly I thank God for allowing me to coincide in this life with a wonderful person as he was, a warrior man, who did not give up easternly, among so many characteristics that he had, the most outstanding was, being able to help who It was around him, very generous and a big heart, he liked to see the football and hear the opera sitting on the reclining chair on his console, my heart feels quiet, knowing that I could help him when he needed it, and I always did it the best possible way, since I had never taken care of someone, and take care of it as if it were my dad, and that is what I encourage myself to give the best of me, because to know that we all go for an age that we will need help and I wish, that when I are on that side, God can put someone who takes care of me and treat me well, and he understands me, as I tried to understand it, all the things we do here, we have to do it from heart and in truth, because God wants everything to do here in this world as if we did it for him. Colossians 3: 23-24 and everything you do, do it from heart, as for the Lord and not for men; 24 Knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance, because Christ the Lord Servís. In this photo we can see happiness by receiving a humble gift at Christmas from me! Well, he was very loved by many people because every day told me many stories of his life, and at Christmas I could see of all that love that people had him! Well we opened many gifts that came every day by the mail ... I also want to thank Kim and Michael for allowing me to take care of his wonderful father, and give me a space here to be able to express myself. Thank you, thank you God bless you today and always.
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Michele Sterner posted a condolence
Thursday, September 29, 2022
For many years Dan was my box mate at the Metropolitan Opera, including during the time he kept two, two-seat subscriptions while he was living in the Virgin Islands, coming to see opera and visit family whenever he could. I felt privileged to figuratively sit at his feet to listen to him discuss the production, often with his friend Bill Maher. Who else could refer to the clarinet soloist from a 1970s staging?? My husband and I also continue to begin the holiday season with his many years of Christmas CDs and DVDs. Until recently this was also a time we exchanged letters.
Dan’s thoughtfulness was reflected in his generosity. In that context I would mention the Christmas recordings he sent to many friends, but in fact it brought him so much pleasure to be sharing these favorites, I expect the chief beneficiary of that generosity was himself. He also on more than one occasion offered me his tickets when he could not make the performance, allowing me to introduce friends to new operas. Many other times he brought or mailed CDs he thought I would—or should—enjoy.
Once Dan stopped attending the Met, I’d email him news and comments about the Met productions I’d seen. And, of course, any mention of the Sarasota Opera in Opera News. I always felt particularly chuffed when he appreciated a comment I’d made or—ah, wonderful!—agreed with my perception. And occasionally, the conversation turned to northern pike and lake trout, warming my Midwestern heart.
Over the years at the Met, I met many of his family members when they joined him or attended in his stead. It was a pleasure to see many of you at the outing Dan arranged for his friends to Opera New Jersey in 2012. I hope to see you again.
Meanwhile, there’s a folder in my email labeled “Dan.” It will stay there.
Michele Sterner, New York, NY
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Lan-Anh lit a candle
Thursday, September 29, 2022
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Uncle Dan always provided advice on classical music/opera which was his yearly mix tape aka CDs for our family to listen. He didn't talk about his pass being in the army as much but the best part when we talked about parachuting which I have found the love for heights. His lesson was to make sure you land properly. Which I took his words and used it as mantra in my daily life.
He is now with my Aunt (Bac) Kim and watching over their kids and family. May you rest in peace.
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Sam & Kathy Garde posted a symbolic gesture
Wednesday, September 28, 2022
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A contribution was made to the Sarasota Opera in honor of Dan Garde.
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James ("Sam") Garde posted a condolence
Tuesday, September 27, 2022
I think that Larry’s post plus the Obituary itself, pretty well capture the essence of my Big Brother Dan. I am in a position to add a little detail to some of the pictures and comments.
Dan never did anything halfway. For example, while wearing out a copy of “Black Slacks”, he was also wearing out our parents, as the sound of the small record player in the basement could be cranked up to be heard on the ground floor. The way I remember the story is: one day, Dad went down to the basement and ordered the Rock & Roll turned off. He gave Dan a record with Claude Debussy’s “La Mer”. Dad told Dan to put it on, sit down and close his eyes, and see if he (Dan) could see the sea. When the magic occurred, Dan was an instant convert.
The photos of Dan on his bike with the Brooklyn Eagle bag and the photo of Dan with a huge turkey are related to his commitment to excel. The Eagle had a contest each year at Thanksgiving time among all the young delivery boys to see who could score the most new orders. Dan was like a “blooded hound dog” and went door-to-door in the neighborhood and in the apartment buildings on Kings Highway until he scored enough new orders to win the turkey pictured.
When it came to baseball, everyone in our neighborhood was a Dodger fan. We lived in Brooklyn!! However, Dan’s approach was a little different. In all the years before 1955, the Dodgers had lost 5 World Series to the New York Yankees. Dan felt that rooting should be for a winner, and he felt that the Dodgers record in those World Series did not deserve his loyalty. The Yankees had demonstrated that they were winners, and VOILA. Dan became a Yankee fan! That was a trait he stayed with even through their down years. He was really enjoying this year and loved his e-mail conversations with family and friends who shared his passion for the game and for the Yankees.
In the late days of OLHC school and early days of Brooklyn Prep, he decided to be a more muscular individual. He bought himself a barbell, two dumb bells and a huge number of weighted plates, from 20 lbs down to 2.5 lbs. He lifted daily and made the freshman (or maybe the JV.) football team. He was very gung ho, and loved it, UNTIL one day, he broke his leg. That brought football to an abrupt end!
Stick ball was a favorite participation sport in our neighborhood. The bigger kids (Mike Abernethy, Don McGovern, Gerry McGovern, etc.) played on E 28th right in front of OLHC Church. Pitching was slow pitch on a bounce. The big kids played “distance” as opposed to “running” the bases. Anything fair on the ground or on a line past the pitcher was a single. A double was past the corner of Ave. M, a triple the other side of Ave M, and a Homerun was the first house on E. 28th past Ave.M. Dan swore he hit one to Jackie Hart’s house, which was 3 or 4 away from Ave. M. (These distances are to the best of my recollection and are approximate if not exact.)
While a “Day Hop” at Fordham, he had a commute of approximately 2 hours each day, each way. He used the time on the train to study (or sleep.) He needed to keep his grades up to maintain his scholarship. He loved the Pershing Rifles more than most guys love their Greek Fraternity. He tried very hard to be the most squared away Cadet in the Company. Pat Painting’s post attests to his success. Kiwi was the preferred shoe polish, and he spit shined his shoes in the attic, where we shared a bedroom. His shoes always were immaculate.
He was very proud that he was always at or extremely close to the top of his class in Ranger school, Jump school, Jump Master school, etc. He loved to compete against West Point graduates and prided himself on besting most (if not all) of those when it came to physical condition. He applied himself 110% to his duties in Vietnam as recognized in his winning a Bronze Star for Meritorious Achievement in Ground Operations against Hostile Forces (in his 5th year of commissioned service) and the Army Commendation Medal (with oak leaf cluster) for Exceptionally Meritorious Achievement in the Republic of Vietnam during the period 1 Feb 1969 until 31 Jul 1969. These awards were not ordinary! They demonstrate his willingness to go “All-In.” One last comment on the awards. He never spoke about them in my presence, even when requested. About that time in his life, he was actually very humble. (“Just doing his job.”)
Kathy & I and our kids used to vacation with the Meeks family at Lake Bomaseen in Vermont. One year, Dan joined us and took great pleasure in teaching our son Andrew how to fish. Andrew was sooo happy when he caught a little sunny, it made his whole day. We have a picture but could not find it in time to include it in the Tribute Book.
When it came to music, opera was his passion. He started opera clubs in New Jersey, St. Croix, and Sarasota. He loved it when he could convince others to join him to listen, watch and discuss opera. He and Willy would often journey from Warrensburg to NYC to enjoy Met performances. When I visited him in Sarasota right before he died, he included me in discussions of his favorite Soprano, Tenor, arias, etc. He kept putting different arias on his TV to demonstrate one aspect or another. He maintained a deep love for symphonic music since the first day with “La Mer.” He even returned to selective Rock & Roll and probably came close to wearing out his CD (if can wear out a CD) of the Alan Parsons’ Project “Eye in the Sky.”
While we never lived close since he left New Jersey, Dan made an effort to keep in touch with all of his family and friends. The other postings in this Tribute Book testify to this fact. He was indeed an exceptional brother, father, husband, friend, Catholic, soldier, and an overall good example to all those he touched. I love you and miss you, big brother.
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Kim Lawrence uploaded photo(s)
Tuesday, September 27, 2022
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These photos (with the exception of the picture similar to the one George Holderied submitted for Exxon fishing buddies) were taken during the last months that my Dad lived. I will cherish those who visited my Dad--I'm sorry I didn't get everyone's pictures--but my Dad sure had many people who loved and respected him. The gentleman in royal blue with a baseball cap on was affiliated with hospice and bringing my Dad a thank you for his military service.
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Kim Lawrence uploaded photo(s)
Tuesday, September 27, 2022
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These pictures were sent to me by Rosemary Maher, wife of the late Willy Maher--lifelong friend of my Dad. I recognize most people in the color photos, but to be honest, I don't know all the folks in the black and white photos, from when my Dad was much younger. Soooo, if any of you want to fill in the blanks for me, and share stories about these people, that would be great! Thanks for sending the photos, Rosemary!
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Kim Lawrence uploaded photo(s)
Tuesday, September 27, 2022
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Just a few of the military awards my Dad received. Thanks for taking pictures, Mike!
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Henriette Anne uploaded photo(s)
Tuesday, September 27, 2022
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Sam mentioned the Family Reunion in Princeton, NJ in July 2012. Danny organized it. So of course the centerpiece of the gathering of the clans was an opera: Il Trovatore. He taught us all to clap and shout Brav-O for the tenor, Brav-A for the soprano, and Brav-I for the whole company. We were the only ones in the audience who got it right. Here are some classic pictures from that night. I especially love the one of Danny laughing!
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Michael Garde uploaded photo(s)
Sunday, September 25, 2022
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A few additional photos of my father.
1. Christmas in Brooklyn in the 1950's
2. Dad in his Army uniform
3. Fordham ID
4. Riding a bike (in Brooklyn?)
5. Receiving the William H. Cameron Safety Award
6. Dad and Grandma dining in St. Croix
7. Catching a string of bass (in Spring Valley, NY?)
8. Fishing in Lake Luzerne in upstate NY
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William Ortiz Amaya uploaded photo(s)
Saturday, September 24, 2022
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It was a pleasure to take care of Dan the last years of his life. I have many beautiful memories of Him. He was always grateful for everything I did for him. Every night when I put him in bed he would say thanks and God bless you. He even sang happy birthday to me on my birthday. I will always remember Dan.
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Michael Garde uploaded photo(s)
Saturday, September 24, 2022
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Dad,
Thank you for all the love, guidance, and support you have given to me over the years.
As a young child, you taught me how to throw a baseball, play guitar, ride a bike, how to swim, throw a football, and play racquetball and stoop ball.
As a teenager, you taught me how to drive, how to fish, and how to appreciation the fine arts. Although opera was not my favorite, I learned how to appreciate the music, costumes, and performance of each production we attended. When money was tight, you still found a way for me to attend Bishop Ahr, a private Roman Catholic high school in Edison, NJ. You dropped me off and picked me up from football and basketball practice and you never missed any of my games.
As an adult, you taught me responsibility, integrity, empathy, leadership, and how to be a role model to others.
All of your guidance has helped pave the way for me to be a parent. Now it’s my turn to teach my children all that you have instilled in me.
We love you and miss you Dad (aka Grandpa). We take comfort in knowing that even though we cannot physically see or touch you, your presence will always be with us.
Love Your Son,
Michael
P.S. Attached are some photos of your passions: fishing in Lake George, The Ring opera in Seattle, and a photo of you with a New York Yankee catcher.
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Kim Lawrence uploaded photo(s)
Saturday, September 24, 2022
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These are various pictures from different times in my Dad's life. Early married life, young father, time on St. Croix, opera fans and friends.
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George Holderied & Family uploaded photo(s)
Friday, September 23, 2022
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The boys from Bayway Refinery fishing group. Many many years (30+) of great times with "Dan Dan the Fisherman" on Lake Champlain. What a great guy to have on the boat. He never wanted to come in until after dark, and he out fished us all!
We love you dearly Dan and miss you greatly. Dan introduced me and my family to the opera at the MET and taught us to love it.
You will always be in our hearts Dan.
Picture on the left is from June 2011 and the picture on the right is from June 2014.
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Larry Garde uploaded photo(s)
Friday, September 23, 2022
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As has been mentioned, family was important to Dan. It occurs to me that he will once again be bringing family and friends together this month, as he did last decade - once in Warrensburg, NY, and once in Princeton, NJ.
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Kim Lawrence posted a condolence
Sunday, September 18, 2022
This comes from Jeff White, not Kim Lawrence. It was posted correctly earlier, and somehow got changed. . .
Dan and I knew one another for approximately 6 years. He was a neighbor of mine while I lived in Sarasota, FL. We became very close friends. I will always remember the stories he shared about his life. We kind of developed a father/son relationship. I helped him a lot during difficult times. He was always grateful, kind, and generous to not only myself, but all those around him. I will treasure his memory always.
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Larry Garde uploaded photo(s)
Saturday, September 17, 2022
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The White 1959 Chevy Impala convertible that went from Dan to Sam (- the one Sam mentions in his comment on Danny's posting of the photo of Dan's Triumph), looked like this:
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Larry Garde uploaded photo(s)
Saturday, September 17, 2022
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A Kid Brother Remembers
Passion – that may well have been my big brother Dan Garde’s defining personality trait: Passion and Love - which, as I reflect upon them, are pretty much the same thing. …At least they were in Dan’s case. Dan wasn’t a “half way” kind of guy. When he liked something or someone – a pastime, a philosophy, a friend – he was all in.
Take baseball for starters. The New York Yankee team and organization is likely unaware, but they lost one of their longest and all-time most ardent fans on August 21 of this year. Remind you, Dan grew up in 1940s and ‘50s Brooklyn. All the other kids in our neighborhood at the time – including 99% of Danny’s friends - were Brooklyn Dodger fans. …Did I mention that Dan was not one to just “follow the crowd”?
And so it was with his lifelong love of music, which probably began when he heard our dad playing the piano in the family living room. It moved from that to the rock n’ roll music on the radio in the 1950s when Dan was a teenager. Family legend has it that Dan actually played copies of a 45 RPM record called “Black Slacks” (by Joe Bennett and the Sparkletones!) so often that he “wore out” his first copy of the thing from repeatedly playing it on a phonograph with the old-style needle, such that eventually the grooves were all but gone, the surface smooth. Finally the needle would just glide across the record.
I’ve heard different versions of how Dan became interested in classical music, but Claude Debussy’s La Mer figures in two of them. But Dan didn’t just like classical music. He didn’t even just ‘really like’ it. Once he got into it, he loved it with a passion. First, symphonic music grabbed him. Later it was piano music, then opera. He and his dear friend Willie Maher would take turns hosting “Opera Club” to share their knowledge and love of the music, its composers and singers, with as many friends as showed interest. Will and Dan would think nothing of jumping into the car, and driving 200 miles south to Manhattan on a Saturday to attend the Metropolitan, and then driving 200 miles back upstate when the opera was over.
Don’t get me started on fishing. Dan was never happier than when he was fishing. He might go alone, but more often than not over the years, it was with a fishing buddy: Charlie Catina, back in the days of the house in Iselin, NJ; and later Brian Winchell in Warrensburg; OR, if a member of the family was around, … his son Michael, a nephew, a niece, or grandchild would be welcome to tag along. Dan also looked forward each spring to the adventure of what became an annual event – the fishing trip with former co-workers up to Lake Champlain.
It would not be at all unlikely to walk into Dan’s home on a summer evening after he retired, and find him organizing a bunch of fishing lures while watching the Yankees play on a TV with the sound off, while an opera recording blasted from the stereo system.
Of course, being 11 ½ years his junior, Dan was out of the house and beginning his Army career when I was just 9 years old. But in the years between when I started school but before Dan left home, I was the beneficiary of having this most generous and big-hearted big brother, who actually took me to some very cool places. I’ll never forget going to my first major concert. It was outdoors – somewhere on Long Island as I recall it - probably in about 1960 - Dan took me to see and hear the sensational young internationally-renowned American pianist Van Cliburn.
I guess I more or less inherited the Yankee fan thing from Dan too. And, inspired by Danny’s legendary Yankee scrapbook, I became an avid collector of baseball cards, hoping to get a Mickey Mantle card in every pack. The only Yankee game I ever attended in my youth, was one at Yankee Stadium that Dan took me to. (Mantle hit a towering triple off the scoreboard that day, incidentally.)
I also have memories of the first time I ever went fishing. It was when I was a small boy, and, of course, with Dan – just the two of us. Dan rented a boat one grey day on the Long Island Sound, and we used drop-lines to catch more than two dozen blow fish. The chronology is fuzzy in my mind, but it probably wasn’t too long before or after that trip, I remember how thrilling it felt when Dan took me for a ride in his new Triumph TR-3 sports car
I should mention another memory I have of sharing the attic in the family house on East 28th Stre
et with Dan while I was small and he was a student at Fordham University (where he commuted back and forth by subway every day – from the last stop at the end of the IRT line in Brooklyn to the north end of the Bronx). I guess it would have been in his freshman year that he joined ROTC. (Remember I started this recollection by talking about Dan’s passion for things. If you looked in a dictionary for the term “gung ho”, you might just find a picture of Dan Garde.) Just belonging to ROTC was not enough for Danny. He was especially proud to be a part of the Pershing Rifles, the crack drill unit. (I attended at least one “drill meet” in an armory in the Bronx or Manhattan at the time, and was duly impressed.) I can also still see in my mind’s eye – Dan, while listening to something like the entirety of Tchaikovsky’s Fifth Symphony on his “Hi Fi”, spit-shining his black leather uniform shoes until they glimmered like glass. I can also hear his voice as he practiced giving commands. It rose above the sound of whatever was coming out of his stereo speakers: “Tin HUT! PreeZent Armz”. I also recall how excited my sister Anne and I were when the family had temporary custody of the unit’s mascot – a brown striped bulldog named “Black Jack”.
But, of all the things Dan accomplished in this life – from academic excellence to his legendary prowess as a stick-ball slugger; from completing two tours of duty in Vietnam, to later pioneering innovative concepts in industrial safety for various companies, etc. – I think some of the “quieter” things he did (the kind for which one receives no medal) are the things I most admire about Dan Garde:
• Dan sponsored all of his wife Chi’s siblings so that they could settle in the U.S. after the fall of Saigon. I don’t know these relatives, but I do know how much they love and appreciate Dan.
• Fast forward to the 1990s – Dan was still working in St. Croix at the time that our mother first became bed-ridden after suffering a stroke. But as soon as he retired and was able, he stepped right into the role of caregiver, and in so-doing helped not only Mom, but the rest of the family.
• Dan never failed to close any phone call we had for the last many years with “I love you, Lar.”
• And finally, I will never forget the grace with which Dan let go in recent years – of all his material belongings his enormous music library that he amassed over a lifetime; two cars (which I am still driving); photos and albums; an enviable stamp collection; two comfortable homes, with furniture, fishing rods, books, wardrobe etc., etc. - And, more importantly the grace he displayed in accepting his infirmities. (OK, I’ll admit that, despite his failing health, he had trouble “letting go” when it came to the Yankees’ recent pitiful losing streak.)
From a distance, I suppose one might observe that Dan and I were very different people. We didn’t see eye-to-eye on many political issues, for example. (Politics was yet one more topic about which Dan could be passionate.) But, once I became an adult, Dan was always very supportive and respectful of my right to form and hold my own opinions. This has been very important to me. And so, as it was in my beginning, is now, and will be for as long as I am privileged to live, I will continue to admire Dan’s life of integrity, and strive to be as decent, faithful, honorable and loving a man as was my big brother.
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Sam Garde lit a candle
Saturday, September 17, 2022
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Here's a family favorite poem, written by our grandmother, Edna Garde.
Loose from my moorings and drifting fast;
Oh, but the waters are bleak and vast!
Oh, but the ocean is wide, is wide,
AndI'll not be back with the turn of the tide.
I'll not be back when the rip tides change
And, whitely, the beaches their fingers range.
Never a pull of the moon or heart
Can summon me back from my journey's start,
And only the cargo I take with me
Will portion my way on that perilous sea
Where only the sound of a silent prayer
May fathom the waves of the outer air.
The moorings are gone. The shore grows dim.
I'm plunging fast toward the sky's pale rim.
New promised each other we would not cry.
You know I'll be waiting. It's not goodbye.
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Sam Garde Posted Sep 17, 2022 at 4:40 PM
I didn't proof read very well, and spell correct probably chose the wrong word.
Penultimate line should read:
"We promised each other we would not cry."
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Henriette Anne Posted Sep 27, 2022 at 12:19 AM
What a perfect poem for this sad occasion. How beautiful it is that we, her grandchildren, know so many of Nana's poems by heart. I recall reciting them with my cousins at the gravesite of Nana, Mary and Dan Garde, Chi--and now Danny, especially "She Wore Big Hats," and "This Separateness."
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Friday, September 16, 2022
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Many have already recorded memories of Dan's love of the opera. Here are two of my favorite pictures from August 2012, when the Sarasota Opera Company presented Verdi's 'Il Trovatore' in Princeton, NJ. Dan had bought a bunch of tickets and invited the whole family and many friends. We all enjoyed the performance very much. If asked, I will identify all the folks in the bigger picture (except one whom I am not sure of.)
James Garde Sn. aka Sam Garde
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Danny took Katherine fishing in Greenlake; it was her first time fishing, and she was so happy. I never knew there were fish in Greenlake! Danny could find fish anywhere! He told her she was a very good fisherperson, because she had patience, and she had fun, even when the fish weren't biting.
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August 1991. Danny and his Klauser cousins "doing The Ring" in Seattle, with brother-in-law Hieu.
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Carl & Eileen Hazell lit a candle
Saturday, September 10, 2022
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I met Dan when he was hired as Safety Director at the Hess Oil Refinery in St.Croix, Virgin Islands. One of my friends at the refinery, Don Stevens who shared with me a love of Opera and Classical Music, told me that "the new guy, the Safety Director
loves our music; check him out." And I did. Our friendship began when he invited me and Don to his house to listen to music. It became a regular meeting place on Saturday evenings, with Don and me alternating the supply of pizza and wine and Dan providing the music. The "music" meant LP's, Laser Discs, VCR tapes, CD's DVD's....all generations. It became a regular thing for the three of us for many months; until word started to spread. Before long, singles & couples began showing up and the Opera Group of St.Croix was formed. The ladies started to bring homemade dishes and Don, Dan and I welcomed the change in cuisine. The Group steadily grew to about 15 members. On a few occasions the opera soprano Martina Arroyo would join us. She had a house on the island. Over the years, Dan became very close friends with me and my wife Eileen. We were fortunate to meet his parents several times when they visited the island, also his daughter Kim and her husband and son Michael. After we retired, we visited Dan in Warrensburg NY, and regularly in Sarasota to enjoy operas with him. For me personally, I will always miss Dan; he taught me so much in the world of opera. He has always been extremely generous to me in sharing his knowledge. A significant part of my music collection is what I received from him. I loved talking with him; I loved that man! Rest in Peace, Dan. We all love you; and we will miss you dearly. Carl & Eileen.
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Valerie Trivisonno-Moreno posted a condolence
Saturday, September 10, 2022
Dan has been part of my life since childhood. We were a group of friends who used to meet at Lobensteins candy store and spend hours laughing, joking and dreaming while playing the juke box, sipping egg creams, eating ice cream and 'hanging out' in front of the candy store together on those warm summer evenings of our teenage years.
When I was in high school, I took lessons in painting on china from Dan's grandmother, Edna Garde,who was a l professional artist. It was such a rewarding experience for me.I spent every Tuesday afternoon at Dan's house painting in one of Mrs. Garde's china painting classes. I continued taking china painting lessons throughout my four years of high school.
Dan's love of the arts continued to inspire me throughout my life. He shared his love of opera with by inviting his friends to attend the opera in NYC and in Princeton, NJ with one another and every year he and Willy Maher would record a CD of music to send us at Christmastide. I have all the CDs...and every Christmas season I look forward to playing them and I am able to reflect on our friends and what an important part of our childhood memories Dan has become to me.
The Garde family has been a significant part of my life and during a display of my handpainted china in the Brigdewater Library in NJ about twelve years ago Mary Edna Garde -Meeks ( Dan's younger sister ) visited the library and saw my exhibit. Subsequently, she contacted me and even though I never knew her when I was growing up, we became friends.....and so the Garde Family Legacy continues!
I have a deep affection for Dan and his family. I will always be grateful for him and his family and those life-long memories of him will always be deep in my heart.
Thank you, Danny (as we called him ).....for being our inspiration!
With Love,
Valerie Trivisonno-Moreno
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Favorite Dan Stories: Danny's love of music did not start out with classical and opera. When we were kids, he loved the Sparkletones and Chuck Berry, and famously played his 33rpm of Maybellene over and over so many times, he wore down the grooves. His knowledge of classical music was unmatched and almost supernatural. Once, when he was visiting us in Seattle, we went to the Seattle Center. The centerpiece of the park is a huge fountain which plays symphonies while the water spouts high. As we passed it, without missing a beat, Danny said, "Debussy. La Mer." Impressive enough, but then he nonchalantly adds the name of the conductor and orchestra playing it. I was gobsmacked. What a mind.
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The "Lohenfelms" and the Gardes--two of the finest families in Brooklyn--were inseparable growing up, and still are, I might add. I have many memories to share, but for now, wanted to post these two classic shots. One, of all the Gardes, and the second of my Big Cousin, Danny, the Leader of the Pack, delivering the Brooklyn Eagle. Danny, you were our hero.
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Mary Cox lit a candle
Thursday, September 8, 2022
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I had the privilege of growing up with the Garde/Loehfelm families. Although I was just a young girl, I remember that my cousin Dan was someone I stood in awe of. He was always gentle and kind to me but had a way about him that commanded your respect. When you were with him at family get togethers (which were quite often) I remember even then feeling that I was around someone very special. My love and prayers go out to Dan's extensive family and friends. Love, Mary Therese
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Pat Painting: Met Dan in 1958 with the Pershing Rifles in the Army ROTC Program at Fordham University. Sharpest cadet in the corps. We were commander and executive officer of company D-8 when we won Outstanding Company in the Pershing Rifles 8th Regiment in 1961. We both went Airborne after graduation. I spent 28 years in the Army while Dan left for civilian pursuits after several years. We kept in touch over the years when Dan got back to New Jersey. He introduced me to opera the "hands on" way. Two hours tutorial at his house and then on to the Met where we enjoyed La Traviata and were able to join him in the heartiest "BRAVA" I have ever heard. Over the years we would visit Dan at his Northern Command Post in Warrensburg. We fished and listened to opera and watched Yankee games and breakfasted with Rosemary and Willie. We were thrilled to be included in Dan's family outing for an afternoon of opera with the Sarasota Opera performing at Princeton's Mc Carter Theatre Where we got to meet some of Dan's family. Dan was one of the smartest and most articulate people I have ever met. His mastery of every pursuit he went after was remarkable. A more humble, prayerful man would be hard to find. I am honored to have had him as a friend all these years. Picture 1 below is Dan and I with General Jack Keane, Fordham P/R, Deputy Chief of Staff of the US Army at the P/R Ball at West Point in 1997. Other three shots were taken during visits to Dan in Warrensburg. RIP DAN
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Mary Gustafson posted a condolence
Wednesday, September 7, 2022
I met Dan on St. Croix, U. S. Virgin Islands, where he was employed by Hess Oil. I was privileged to become part of his "Opera Club" where a cadre of about 8 people (sometimes 18) met on Saturday night at Dan's house. Dan supplied the wine, and we (the club member women) took turns preparing dinner each Saturday. Dan's collection of operas (and classical music) was enormous, and we always had outstanding, beautiful evenings, viewing operas. At Christmas Dan always sent out a CD with the best voices from all over the world singing Christmas music. I have the collection which spans from 2009 through 2017, including some DVD's of special Christmas programs. Many, many hours were spent by Dan producing these gems so that his many friends would have the most beautiful music. This shows how generous Dan was, and how much he thought of his friends, because the hours had to be almost uncountable to produce the CD's and DVD's, package and mail them. It was a happy day when I moved to Florida and not too far from where Dan lived, and was able to visit him, go to the opera in Sarasota with him, and be in regular touch with him.
I learned so much from Dan, my dear, dear friend, and will always remember his beautiful and generous soul.
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Hieu T. Nguyen
I first met Mr. Dan Garde in my country, the Republic of South VietNam, about 60 years ago. He came to assist and help our country fight the communist North VietNam. He was a soft-spoken person with a friendly smile, however, I was not able to catch everything he said because I didn't know and understand English much at this time. But I just knew that he made me feel safe, and that I could trust him. Soon, Dan became my brother-in-law, and went back to the United States with my sister, Kim. Time went by fast; I became a pilot to fight the communist North VietNam with the help and support of the United States. Sadly, that war was lost.
Dan and my sister brought all of our family into the United States as immigrants on April-30-1975. They worked diligently for months with all the paperwork necessary to sponsor our family, and communicated with me in order to obtain an affidavit from the USA embassy. With that affidavit, our family was able to leave VietNam with the American military. We reunited with my sister and Dan about a month later at their house in Metuchen, New Jersey (May-1975). From that day, I had more opportunities to get to know my brother-in-law.
The more I knew Dan, the more I loved and respected him!
1.- I remember, just a few days later, Dan gave me, and my younger brothers and sisters a tour of New York City. He was kind and patient with us, explaining the history of each of the major landmarks: Radio city, Opera houses, Major Streets, Retail Stores … Well, honestly speaking, we didn't understand much at that time; however, this gesture showed he was a man with a big heart, and that he cared for each of us. He was the best tour guide. I also noticed that he was quite proud being a native New Yorker! and later on, discovered that he loved Opera and Classical Music.
Time passes, and we all move forward in our lives, and on different paths, but we always keep in touch with love, care, trust and respect towards each other. Family.
2.- I remember the time Dan visited us in Seattle, Washington, so that he can see the Opera production “Wagner's RING Cycle.” He said that this production performs in many, big, well-known art cities. We got together for brunch on one of the days, with his cousin, my wife, me and my children.
The “Wagner's RING Cycle” takes 15 hours to complete in 3 days.
When it was time to say our goodbyes, Dan told us he will be back in 4 years when “Wagner's RING Cycle” production comes back to Seattle. We told him he was welcome anytime!
Besides the RING, he also often mentioned another famous Opera production, “La Boheme ” which he saw quite a few times and loved each and every one, just like he did the RING.
Now, you can see how much Dan loved Opera, yet his heart also had a special place for Classical Music. He had a passion for Classical, and could spend hours sharing and talking about his favorites. Dan had an impressive collection on 33 RPM Speed Vinyl Records.
3.- I remember, that for years, at every Christmas, New Year, Holiday Season, we received a very special greeting from Dan. He would send all his family members a card along with a DVD or CD of classical, holiday music. Dan so loved us, that he shared his love with us; sending his well wishes with a synopsis of the CD or DVD that was included. A gift from the heart.
4.- I remember, around ten years ago, my wife and I went to visit Dan in Sarasota, Florida. He was very happy to see us, and we were equally happy to see him. We had many great conversations, laughed a lot, and reminisced about our younger days. Dan told us that he was now the “Opera man” in his community, and that once or twice a week he would entertain and guide a group of residents on the beauty of opera and help them enjoy and understand it better. And guess what? Dan excitedly took us to his car so that we could see the license plate, it said, “OPERA MAN”. We then took Dan to his favorite restaurant and had a lovely lunch. Afterwards, like what he did in 1975 in NYC, Dan was once again our personal tour guide as we drove down the main streets of Sarasota.
5.- Mr. Dan Garde is the man with the soft voice and warm smile, who was well-spoken and patient, who always offered a hand with genuine care, and love. He did things with intention and heart. Dan is the brother-in-law I will always love, admire and respect. His departure is my great lost. If there is another life after death, I wish to meet him again… Dan, I miss you.
Hieu. T Nguyen
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Cuzin Henriette Anne (Honey) Posted Sep 10, 2022 at 1:54 PM
Hieu, what a lovely tribute to Dan. I love the wedding picture. I have some great shots of you and your family taken during that infamous RING visit to Seattle, which I hope to post later. Warm regards from Danny's West Coast cousin, Henriette
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michael hallahan posted a condolence
Tuesday, September 6, 2022
Dan and I,have been friends for over 70 years.We grew up together in OLHC parish,and attending the parish school.Thats where the similarities end.Dan was an excellent student,and its all on record in the parish bulletin.I think almost always,he was number one in his class,on the Honor Roll.But there was more about Dan.Growing up,he loved 'Rock & Roll',so much so,that he took up;learning the 'sax',and pretending to do,all the 'sax solos',in mostly all recordings.Next came the opera.Where that came from I don't know.As years past he collaborated,with another boyhood buddy Willy/Bill Maher.If your were ever in the room,when they discussed opera,You would be both amused and in awe,by therir knowledge.There is so much more,tha could be said,but theres no room to cite it all.But to me,his biggest asset was his parents,Dan sr and Mary Garde,whom he loved dearly,amd his siblings,Sam,Mary Edna,Anne Helene,and Larry whom he loved as well.( include Grandma Edna)I was just fortunate and blessed to know them,all.Until we meet again budd,God bless you and keep you.Rest in the Peace of Jesus.
Love you budddy
Mike Hallahan
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Thomas J. O'Donnell, Jr. posted a condolence
Tuesday, September 6, 2022
For nine arduous weeks in the fall of 1962, Dan and I were "Ranger Buddies" during our U. S. Army training at Ft. Benning, Georgia. We first became acquainted as Army R. O. T. C. cadets during our four years as students at Fordham University. As a cadet leader of the R. O. T. C. program, Dan was an inspiration to me and many other cadets. As "Ranger Buddies", Dan's never give up attitude and his courage inspired me to not quit when the going got tough. Dan's inner strength, his fidelity, bravery and integrity continue to inspire me and many others.
May Dan's family be comforted by knowing our Heavenly Father has greeted him with the words - "Well done my good and faithful servant!"
Rest in Peace, Dan!
Your "Ranger Buddy"
Tom O'Donnell
U. S. Regular Army, 1962 to 1965
FBI, Special Agent, 1965 to 1999
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Just starting with the army.
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Fishing with his father. His father.
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High School graduation day with my Dad.
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James ("Sam") Garde Posted Sep 7, 2022 at 11:12 AM
When Dan bought this little jewel, he sold me his 1959 Chevrolet Impala Convertible. I had that car while stationed in Bainbridge, MD, West Milton, NY, New London, CT and Charleston, SC. It was very fast up to about 90 mph, when the wings in the back got a little air underneath them, and made the rear end unstable.
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Newlyweds.
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Family of four.
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Making friends.
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At Fordham University.
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Early years
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At the beach.
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Dan with his wife Kim.
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Dan Garde with his Mother.
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